Know When To Say No

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There are times in every groomers career where we should NOT finish the pet we are working on. Sometimes because it’s become dangerous for the pet, other times it’s dangerous for us. Either way, you need to know when to say no. All the pets below were very happy clients of mine. This is mostly from the perspective of a mobile groomer. If I was a shop, other options such as breaking up the groom throughout the day might be a consideration. All of these scenarios required  clear client communication on what could and could not be done.

 

TOBY was a golden retriever who was adopted by his family at the age of 12. He never cared for the dryer, but initially tolerated it. As he aged, he began to have problems whenever I turned the High Velocity dryer on. He would bark nonstop, became very agitated and peed or pooped on the table. He was having a dryer induced seizure. While this is more common in the elderly, this can occur in pets of all ages. To continue grooming him would result in a heart attack. The solution was simple. Don’t HV dry him. As I am a mobile groomer, cage drying was not an option. All brushing, scissoring and clipping was done before the bath. Afterwards, Dad carried Toby back into the house, laid him in front of a roaring fire and covered him with a light blanket. All that was missing was the cup of hot chocolate for Toby. 

 

KC was a very large, thick, long coated golden retriever. He is a very time consuming dog to groom, but looks magnificent when finished. When KC turned 13, he began to rely on the hip supports. To continue grooming KC in full coat would cause him pain. We kept him in a puppy trim which cut grooming time in half.

 

PHOENIX was a 13 year old Akita. She could not stand for the full hour it takes to blow out the coat, brush and then comb her. She, however, can tolerate 45 minutes. While Phoenix has her coat blown out and brushed, I  stopped combing her out.

 

JP at 16 missed his last groom. I arrived at his home and made a determination that JP was not up for it. Now, why can I see he was not well, but the owner didn’t. I think it’s because of that pair of rose colored glasses she was wearing and couldn’t see the inevitable. She was in denial. At least I got to say my good-byes as he was put down the following week. 

 

CLEO aka Sybil was muzzled from BEFORE she enters my van until she leaves. She does not like grooming and she means business, Once Cleo begins thrashing, groom is over. To continue grooming her would cause physical injury to either myself or Cleo. Once we are finished, she’s my best friend. Hence Sybil. Cleo does not leave my side and gives me big rottie kisses until I go.

 

LAMBIE was a male Lhasa. Need I say more. No, but I will. He was found wondering the streets of Norwalk, CT, obviously for some time. He was adopted by a client after her NICE toy poodle passed away. He is muzzled, groomer helpered, and harnessed. I never use scissors around him as that will only lead to bloodshed. I can’t clip under the muzzle. When Lambie was done, he had this lopsided Fu Manchu look going on and sloppy feet. I am very proud of this groom because the alternative was sedation at the vet. 

 

WILLY and I had an arrangement. He will let me brush and trim his ears, cut his hails and brush him out IF I don’t dry him. Willy became aggressive when I turn the dryer on.  He ferociously attacked the HV nozzle and worked himself up into a state. I needed to exercise caution as the high velocity of this dryer can blow out a lung. He’s been known to take a chunk out of the vacuum cleaner at home if Mom leaves it in the hallway. Willy was tolerant of the grooming process if I don’t dry him. I knew his limits. To continue would result in injury to me or Willy. 

 

COOPER was a young, sweet, anxious and scared German Shephard. Everyone repeat after me: Fear Biter with large teeth.Cooper is muzzled start to finish because I don’t know what will frighten him this time. I can’t trust him. His very large teeth can do serious damage to me.

 

MILLY the cat came to me because her sister died of a heart attack at a grooming shop. The shop did not know when to stop the groom.

 

Last, but not least.

BINNGO passed away at the age of 9. He had a heart condition that I was aware of. His veterinarian gave him clearance for grooming. Binngo was always a good boy in my van. I had him on the table and turned on the HV dryer. He squealed, peed and then pooped on himself. I rinsed him off and noticed the glazed look in the eyes. I put Mom and Binngo in the van and drove to the vet’s office. They later put him down as there was no improvement. There was no indication of a problem before he had a heart attack. Binngo was fine was minute and not the next. It was that quick.

 

Binngo is the reason I became a pet first aid instructor. Even though CPR was not needed, I wouldn’t have remembered how to do it. It was six years since I last took a class. It’s all I thought about. What if? I never wanted to feel that unprepared again. I don’t want anyone else to feel that unprepared. 

 

My client’s owners trust me to know when to quit. The well being of their beloved pet is my primary concern. Prettiness is secondary. I tell all the owners the same thing. “ You may be paying for this, but my client is your pet, not you. I do what is best for my client.”

 

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Mary facilitates education and dreams  in the professional pet industry. Talk to her at Mary@PawsitivelyPretty.com or visit her website at www.PawsitiveEd.com.

 


I’ve Got Crabs, You’ve Got Crabs, We All Have Crabs

The Crab Effect

That's right!

I’ve got crabs, you’ve got crabs, we all have crabs.

 

Maybe I should have started out with defining what I mean by crabs.

 

In psychology terms, there is a behavior called “The Crab Effect.”  It illustrates the selfish, harmful, and jealous mindset of people who will try to undermine others.

 

It’s so named because of what crabs do when you put them in a pot of boiling water. If a crab tries to escape, the other crabs in that pot will pull the escapee back into the boiling water. If I’m going to die, then so are you.

 

What a crab really is, is someone in your inner circle who does not support you. They try to talk you out of it under the guise of it’s in your best interest or flat out gives you a hard time. Sometimes it’s jealousy or a fear on their part that you will leave them behind and not need them anymore.

 

Another type of crab is the online/in-person warrior. They tend to go after anyone they perceive as higher up in the industry food chain than they are. Afterall, it’s so much easier to take someone down a couple of pegs rather than expend the effort to be better than where they are. In other instances, they are higher up in that food chain and want to keep any “competitors” in their place.

 

I’ve heard advice that you should just ignore them, but that’s easier said than done. What you can do is:

 

🐾 Set boundaries with friends and family. Let them know this is important to you and if they really cared about your happiness, they will find a way to offer support and constructive assistance. This can be a hard conversation to have. I know exactly how hard this is as I’ve had to have it with my own hubby. He’s gone from being one of my crabs to a wonderful and encouraging support system.  I would list out your reasons and the benefits to all involved and role play with a trusted friend to become comfortable talking about. 

 

🐾 Get a better inner circle. There are studies that show you are the sum of your 5 closest friends/family. Take a good look at them. Do they have drive and ambition or do they spend their time complaining about how life and (insert person/situation/circumstance) that is holding them back? Network with people who are where you want to be. My own personal coach is always a couple of steps ahead of me and exactly where I want to go. Literally, this will go on in perpetuity. She grows, I grow. I collaborate with professionals who are ambitious.

 

🐾 Buy a stuffed crab and name it. Put it in a pot that has a lid. Someone in particular giving you a hard time or seems to get joy from making you cry? Put the crab in the pot and put the lid on it. This is a fun visualization exercise. One that I use when the first or second suggestions won’t help.

 

🐾 Repeat as necessary.

 

After all, crabs are much better covered in melted butter right next to a corn on the cob than making your life miserable.

BTW Amazon has stuffed crabs that can be delivered right to your doorstep. 



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Mary facilitates education and dreams  in the professional pet industry. Talk to her at Mary@PawsitivelyPretty.com or visit her website at www.PawsitiveEd.com.


I Found This Great Photo On The Internet. Can I Use It On My Website?

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I mean if it’s on the internet, that means its in the public domain? Right?

THAT WOULD BE A NO!

Let’s look at it from a different perspective. Say you just finished grooming a dog and the owner comes to pick him up. And then proceeds to walk out the door without paying. When you question it, the owner replies, “I found you on the internet and therefore you are in the public domain and I don’t have to pay you.”

SEE THE PROBLEM.

Somebody took that picture you found on a google search. It is the intellectual property of the person who took the photo unless other arrangements were made between the photographer and another person. And just like you want to get paid for the service you provided, the same goes for the photographer.

WHAT IS PUBLIC DOMAIN?

Public Domain is a legal term. It refers to works, such as photographs, manuscripts, and so forth whose exclusive intellectual property rights  (copyrights) have expired, forfeited,  waived, or not applicable. You can use a photo that is in the public domain,  but you cannot own it.

WHICH BRINGS US TO COPYRIGHT.

A copyright is automatically applied when a work is published. Published includes being uploaded to the internet. The bigger question is how long does it last. Anything before 1923 is in the public domain. Between 1922 to 1977, is protected for 95 years from the date of publication. If published after 1978, the copyright lasts for the life of the author plus 70 years.

SOME EXAMPLES OF PUBLIC DOMAIN:

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This photo was taken by NASA. The copyright was waived.

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This photo was taken in 1918. Any copyright has expired.

You want to use nice photographs for your website and social media, but now you’re informed.

 

Crap.

 

What are your options?

STOCK PHOTOS!

Stock photos come from photo stock companies such as DepositPhotos and Shutterstock (paid), or Pixabay and Pexels (free mostly.) These companies may have rules in place in how to use the photos. They may require attribution ( identify author and service) or restrict their use to social media and websites, but not advertising campaigns. Read the fine print.

Even the paid stock companies are usually nominal in cost.

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This is an example of a free stock photo from Pixabay. This photo requires no attribution and can be used commercially. If I’m so inclined I can buy the photographer a cup of coffee.

SERIOUSLY, WHAT COULD THE OWNER OF THE PHOTOGRAPH REALLY DO ANYWAY?

They have several options:

1. They can request that you credit them and/or include a link to their website.

2. Send you via an attorney a DMCA Take-Down Notice
 Purusant to the U.S. Digital Millennium Copyright Act (“DMCA”) enacted in 1998. It would also be sent to the ISP host as well. If you don't comply, your website host company can legally take down your website.

3. Send an invoice.

4. File a copyright lawsuit.

AND THAT PHOTO THAT WAS FOUND ON A GOOGLE SEARCH IN THE BEGINNING WITHOUT ANY ATTRIBUTION.

Well, that belongs to me. I am the owner of that photograph. It is not in the public domain simply because it was found on a Google search.